I Know I’m Feeling Something When I Eat, But What Is It?

I know I’m Feeling Something

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I Know I’m Feeling Something When I Eat, But What Is It?

Listening to feelings and emotions can be super powerful. These body signals are a powerful eating driver. Eating itself can also call out emotions, sometimes strong ones. It therefore shouldn’t be very surprising that a key part of developing a peaceful relationship with food is made much easier when you develop a good understanding of your emotions regarding food.

Your food relationship is just like your relationships with people that way. However, developing a good understanding of your emotions regarding food can be surprisingly difficult to do.

Listening to Your Feelings Requires Skill

Listening to your emotions is not always as simple as listening to someone who is talking to you. Sometimes, it’s more like listening to someone whispering with their head under a pillow. The problem is that we aren’t often taught to listen to our emotions, or even to think about them very much. We can therefore tend to be kind of blind to them. Strong emotions can be easy to feel, but emotions come on a spectrum, with some of them being quite faint and hard to detect.

And understanding the emotions you feel that are related to food is often made even more difficult by modern diet culture. This diet culture outright teaches people to deliberately cultivate ignorance of these emotions. It even teaches people to fight them, to suppress them. Growing up in an environment steeped in this culture, it’s unsurprising that we might struggle at times to listen to and comprehend our emotions. It’s kind of frowned upon.

However, just because you don’t listen to them doesn’t mean you stop experiencing them. Your body tries to communicate your emotions to you with different sensations and cues. But a lot of different feelings are associated with very similar sensations and cues. And that’s why listening to your feelings, really understanding them, requires you to develop certain skills. Fortunately, there are a number of tools out there that can help you develop them.

Understanding Your Emotional Eating Motivations

If you want to develop a more peaceful relationship with food, it’s almost a necessity to learn and understand your emotional eating motivations. Only then will you be able to engage with your emotions in different, more peaceful ways. And to understand what these emotional eating motivations are, start by studying your food-related emotions. Look at the things you tend to feel emotionally when you experience food cravings. Examine the things you feel when you eat and after you eat. See if you can find any patterns in these observations.

And to study them, of course, you first need to be able to identify what they are. So, if you know that you are feeling something when you eat but don’t know exactly what that something is, how can you figure it out?

Well, a good place to start is making a food-related emotions chart. It doesn’t have to be anything complicated, just a chart with, say, your meals in rows and the days in columns. Whenever you eat, record the sensations and cues that your body is giving you. Make note of anything that you can figure out about what emotions you are feeling. If your feelings seem to be strong, make note of what you were doing.

The Feelings Wheel which is an Emotions Chart with 114 different emotions to choose from

Eating Motivations

To create your own emotions chart, utilize specialized tools designed to enhance your comprehension of emotions. A valuable tool for this purpose is a feelings chart, with various options available. One popular format involves three concentric circles, similar to the ‘Feelings Wheel’ above. The inner circle comprises pie slices, each representing a simple, basic emotion like happiness or sadness, distinguished by different colors. The outer circle further refines emotions into more complex and specific categories, color-coded to correspond with the basic emotions at the center. The outermost is divided into still more subtle, color-coded emotional distinctions.

So when you notice that you’re having some kind of food-related feeling, pull out this feelings chart and start in the center. Try to identify the most basic type of emotion that you’re feeling. From there, work your way to the outer circle, staying within the same color. Use the cues your body is giving you to distinguish between the different feelings on different levels of the chart. Learning how to do that can take some practice.

To make that process easier, you can use the Way app. It’s divided into a number of pathways that are designed to help you develop a more harmonious relationship with food. One of these pathways is designed to teach you the skills you need to listen to your feelings and body better. It teaches you how to pick up on the cues and signals your body uses to communicate your feelings about food to you. It helps you figure out what they are trying to tell you about your emotions. As you use the Way app, you’ll get better and better at filling in the entries on your emotions chart.

Looking for Patterns in Your Food-Related Feelings

Once you’ve compiled a substantial emotions chart, spanning at least a few weeks’ worth of entries, leverage it to discern the messages behind your feelings. Accomplish this by identifying patterns on the chart. If you observe specific emotions surfacing consistently at certain times, recall the activities or thoughts during those instances. Investigate whether particular feelings are linked to specific foods or events. By consistently monitoring your emotions related to food and studying them, you will gradually uncover the information you seek.You will find the particular emotions that trigger particular eating behaviors.

Forging a New, Peaceful Relationship with Food

With this information, you can learn how to engage with your emotional eating motivations in a different and more peaceful way. When you do, you’ll find that you eat in an intuitive way more naturally, without harsh restrictive diets and fighting your emotions and natural instincts. And that will also leave you feeling happier and less stressed out.